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Not-so-new situation in my life
Have you ever had a new, and hard situation in your life?
A new situation in my life that I had to deal with, is my parents divorce. Even though I had sort of expected it, when they told us, it felt like I had forgotten all about my suspicions. I had no say, so on the Thursday after my parents told us, my mom moved away. Luckily, my mom moved to Fieldcreek, which is only about two minutes away from my dad’s house.
Now comes the tricky part, explaining how I dealt with it. It’s hard because it’s a divorce and it always hurts, so there’s really no way to truly get over it. But there are some things that make it easier and better.
One really, really good thing is that my parents cooperate, don’t hate each other, and try not to fight in front of us, let alone fight. They cooperate by when we need something at Mom’s house but we’re at Dad’s, the things we need easily get over to Dad’s. Just so you know, that can happen vice-versa too. They don’t hate each other, and I know that because they don’t fight often. But the main reason is that if there is something that one parent wants to take us kids to but it is on the other parent’s night, they usually let the parent take us to it. That also shows that my parents really love my siblings and I. They try not to fight in front of us, and we rarely see them fighting. If we do see them fighting it’s mainly just a small argument.
Another good thing is that we came up with a schedule that I think everyone likes. It’s a two, two, five, five schedule. That means that we get two days (actually days means nights, NOT 24 hours) at Mom’s, then two at Dad’s. After that it’s five at Mom’s, then five at Dad’s. Then it restarts. I think that it’s a great schedule (even though it’s not perfect) because it works great, and each parent gets equal time. Also they each have vacation days, which sets boundaries for how long we can be on vacation with each parent. This schedule also works for all of our activities and sports (cheerleading isn’t a sport, it falls in with activities and requires little exercise, but that’s another story, not for now).
Those are the ways of how I dealt with it. Even though all of those things helped, there are also things that made those harder. One for the “great” schedule is that if a parent lets the other parent have the kids on a night of theirs, it is hard to give a day to the parent who gave a day so that it is a trade. Most of the time, it just ends up as a day given away. Another bad thing is that my parents do fight, just not in front of us. Those are just a few of the bad things, and I can’t say the rest, for we would be here for a long time and it would be an invasion of privacy.
So I ask you again, have you ever had a new, and hard experience in your life?
Article posted March 6, 2012 at 09:16 PM •
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