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Can you ever say No!
Since I was a teen-ager and started to meet with the real world, I learnt to treat people equally, not to be judgmental, to carry people in my prayers, to put myself in others’ shoes and bottom line to become a good person. I always felt with others and listened to them. I also trained myself to love my enemies and forgive a lot. I never thought once of hearting anybody’s feelings nor let my friends down. That was really something that I’m proud of.
…I grew acquiring more skills and getting stuck to my paradigms. But I always felt uncomfortable with myself. Because I used to cater for others’ needs and demands neglecting my well being and squeezing out my energy and patience to the last drop.
In result, I never learnt to slow down, nor take it easy on myself. I actually had never said, “NO”, to anyone ever - though I really wanted to, so many times. Why? Because I always have considered it a natural reaction of empathy and caring. Well, I had maintained good relationships and my positive-attitude-account got more funds.
However, I realized, few years later, that I can’t go on like that. I’m who I’m and I’m happy with myself but I’m tired. Then, it’s about time to start using my “NO” when I have to. “No” to what exactly? Simply to say it out loud when I can’t take it anymore physically and mentally. I know that this might be Chinese to you. What’s she talking about? I’ll tell you.
If I can’t extend my 24 hours to keep every body around me (family, colleagues and friends) happy, it’s okay this is fact. I learnt that I should prioritize more and breathe more, for everything can wait and I need to relax. When I started doing so, I started enjoying my living better and give more. Nobody got harmed of my openness and honesty, on the contrary when I started verbalizing my No more to things I can’t do I got appreciated more.
I guess I always misinterpreted the concept of love. I can’t love the others if I don’t have mercy on myself. What do you think?
Article posted February 16, 2009 at 01:21 PM •
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Hello there. I'm a Arabic T.A. I'm a mother of 3 boys. I love kids and enjoy spending time in their world. I appreciate Arts and cherish Music. Books are my hiding place and writing is what I long to whenever I have a minute free.
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