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Once a person came to a wise man and told him that he has to tell him a very important information regarding one of the man's friends. So the wise man interrupted him and asked him to do a simple test-which he called "The three Filters' Test"- before allowing him to go on with his story.
Reluctantly, that person agreed.
"Are you 100 percent sure about the details of your story? Are you definite about how it happened and you can confirm every word you're saying?" the wise man asked, adding that this was the First Filter called TRUTH.
"No, I'm not quite sure…but the person who told me..." answered that person. Then letting him no more talking, the wise man said, “Then let us go to the second Filter called GOODNESS, and see if you're going to pass this stage now so you can tell me your story”.
"Is what your going to say about my friend brings him any good? Is what you plan to tell me positive and fair about him?" asked the wise man.
"Actually it's the opposite...I was going to tell you how he..." answered the person. Again, the wise man interrupted him saying that he must pass the 3rd Filter called BENEFIT now for him to proceed with his story.
“Does your story have a moral or a hidden message behind it? Does it teach me anything new or add to my knowledge any tip?” asked the wise man.
“In fact, I don’t think so” answered the person.
“Well if your story is not true, nor is fair about my friend or even useful for me, why did you want to tell me about it?” concluded the wise man. That person was very disappointed and left the wise man without daring to add a word.
Well this story was really touching to me and let me stop and think about how many times we say things- that are of no benefit for us or the others- just for the sake to brag or chat! The three Filter Test is a paradigm that I decided to add to my principles and refer to whenever I have something to say.
Article posted July 23, 2008 at 07:52 AM •
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Hello there. I'm a Arabic T.A. I'm a mother of 3 boys. I love kids and enjoy spending time in their world. I appreciate Arts and cherish Music. Books are my hiding place and writing is what I long to whenever I have a minute free.
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