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 Can you ever say No! …I grew acquiring more skills and getting stuck to my paradigms. But I always felt uncomfortable with myself. Because I used to cater for others’ needs and demands neglecting my well being and squeezing out my energy and patience to the last drop. In result, I never learnt to slow down, nor take it easy on myself. I actually had never said, “NO”, to anyone ever - though I really wanted to, so many times. Why? Because I always have considered it a natural reaction of empathy and caring. Well, I had maintained good relationships and my positive-attitude-account got more funds. However, I realized, few years later, that I can’t go on like that. I’m who I’m and I’m happy with myself but I’m tired. Then, it’s about time to start using my “NO” when I have to. “No” to what exactly? Simply to say it out loud when I can’t take it anymore physically and mentally. I know that this might be Chinese to you. What’s she talking about? I’ll tell you. If I can’t extend my 24 hours to keep every body around me (family, colleagues and friends) happy, it’s okay this is fact. I learnt that I should prioritize more and breathe more, for everything can wait and I need to relax. When I started doing so, I started enjoying my living better and give more. Nobody got harmed of my openness and honesty, on the contrary when I started verbalizing my No more to things I can’t do I got appreciated more. I guess I always misinterpreted the concept of love. I can’t love the others if I don’t have mercy on myself. What do you think? Article posted February 16, 2009 at 01:21 PM • comment (2) • Reads 279 • Return to Blog List Add a CommentPosted Comments  You are echoing my thoughts. This is exactly the situation with me. I know that being there for others and lending a helping hand creates in me a feeling of satisfaction, but in most times, I end up having no time for me. You know, one of my good school/university friends died tragically last week in a car accident. Since last week, I have had a feeling of regret for all the times I apologized for not being able to make it for a gathering or a day out with my friends simply because I had a lot to do. I made a promise to myself that I will start paying more attention to my social life. The question is, Salwa, you started saying No, but will I be able to do?I know I should, but it won't be easy....
Comment Posted on February 21, 2009 at 02:47 PM by
Rana LawandYou know Salwa saying "No" is a social skill for a well -balanced and happier life. Also people who know how to set their priorities show a high level of Emotional Entelligence. They simply feel less pressured and less angry than those who say yes all the time. Good Luck with your new self-discovery. Evienoula
Comment Posted on February 19, 2009 at 07:02 AM by
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About the Blogger Hello there. I'm a Arabic T.A. I'm a mother of 3 boys. I love kids and enjoy spending time in their world. I appreciate Arts and cherish Music. Books are my hiding place and writing is what I long to whenever I have a minute free. Latest 10 Comments:
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