My Last Thought
In the beginning of the year, from when I made my first step into the classroom, I wasn’t a cooperative group member. I had many flaws. I was domineering and not exceptionally obliging. I also generally ignored the other members of the group. As the year progressed, I learned that my work improved when I cooperate with others. I also learned that being more cooperative with others will make them be more accommodating in return. This year I improved being a more cooperative group member in several ways. One way is I am less bossy. Another way is I listen to the ideas given by other members of the group. Finally, if someone in my group has an idea that I don’t agree with, I respect the idea and I tell the person that I don’t agree with him or her in a collegial manner. I’m still working on not shouting when someone in the group says something I think is wrong.
I know I am less dominant than I was in the beginning of the year. In September I was in a project called Artrix. In that group I was very domineering.
“We are finished with the script! Go work on the clay! We need more clay! You’re not doing it right!”
I sounded like that during Artrix. The entire group was angry at me. “Ugh, we are going to get a bad score” I thought. When the teacher called us so we can view our scores, we all plodded toward the door. We all knew we were going to get an awful score. When the teacher gave us the scores, they were not outstanding but they were better than we expected. One of the reasons our scores were not exceptional is because I was to bossy. If I was less bossy, our grades would have gone up and the other group members would like and respect me more. Also, if I was less bossy in Artrix, I would have learned more of how to be less domineering in other situations. Now recently I was put into a social studies group and this group has some classmates that were in Artrix with me. Now they can’t believe how much I improved. They think I am so much less dominant than I was in September. I know I became a less officious person than I was in September.
I now listen to the ideas of the other group members, but in September I didn’t most of the time. In my Artrix group I also didn’t listen to the ideas of the other group members. I just said no to everything without even listening to it. When the teacher said it was time to do Artrix projects, I jumped out of my chair and I walked towards the rest of my group.
“How about we....”
“You don’t even know what I am going to say.”
“I don’t want to, we are still going to use my idea.”
I turned around and I headed to the other side of the table to start the project. “My idea is the best, I don’t need to hear his’’ I thought. Now I know that my idea probably wasn’t the best. I wish I had listened to the ideas back then. If I actually did that, our scores may have gone up. Also if I listened to them, they might have not been angry at me. Now if someone in my group comes up with an idea, I listen to it, and if it is superior the group will use it. I realized that when the entire group listens to each other’s ideas, the entire group gets better grades. We also become more cooperative so we get more work done faster.
Earlier in the year when I was in Artrix, when someone in my group came up with an idea I don’t agree with I used to tell them that I don’t agree with him or her in a rude and unpleasant manner. I used to get frustrated and shout.
“How could you have come up with an idea like that? It was so horrible.”
“It wasn’t that horrendous.”
“What are you talking about, it was outrageous.”
“Anyway we need some clay.”
I leaped off my seat and I ran down the hallway. “That idea was so appalling” I thought. Now if someone comes up with an idea that I don’t agree with, I tell the person that I don’t agree with him or her in a collegial, respectful way. I am so glad that if now I disagree with someone I don’t shout.
I am ecstatic that I actually became a more cooperative person. I worked hard throughout the entire year to become more accommodating. I became less domineering. I listen to the ideas of the other group members. Also, if I don’t agree with someone’s idea, I will tell them that I don’t agree in a collegial manner. Now, I am going to become better at other things that make me even more of an obliging person.